I'm with Sandra on this, it seems unsafe.

It's interesting how this idea shows up everywhere once you start looking. You see it in families where one person does all the mental labor and burns out, or in group projects where someone takes on all the grunt work. Why do we hold onto small jobs even when they drain us? Maybe we mix up control with being needed, or we fear things won't be done right. Letting go of the tiny stuff often feels like the hardest step, but it's the only way to make room for what actually matters.

Totally agree, being direct cuts the mental spiral short. I used to waste time guessing if someone was being nice or had an agenda, now a simple "no thanks" solves it. Overthinking just gives the weirdness more power than it deserves.