Appreciate friends who tackle gross jobs with you. Crawling through dirt alone feels awful, but doing it together turns a chore into a story. That kind of help proves who your real people are.
Been on both sides of this and realized it shows who feels owed help versus who just gives it freely. Like if you're always the one crawling in the dirt for them but they vanish when you need a hand, that's not just about being busy. It's a quiet way some people keep score without saying it. Those gross tasks strip away the polite stuff and show the real balance of a friendship. Makes you see who views help as a trade and who sees it as just what you do for people you care about. Changes how you see every text after that.