My aunt said to stop sanding my grandma's old bookcase, and she was right
She said sanding it down would kill the 60 years of hand oil and wear that makes the wood look warm. I tested a small spot on the back last month and it turned into a pale, flat patch that stands out bad in the lamplight. Has anyone else left a piece of furniture rough on purpose?
Sanding it was the right move and your aunt is just wrong about this one. That dark grime people call "patina" is mostly dirt, smoke, and spilled stuff soaked into the wood, not some magic oil from your grandma's hands. Strip it, oil it, and the grain will actually pop instead of looking muddy.